How to become more happy now
Yes, you can do it now and best of all, it is free
I think the best approach to happiness is thinking “less is more“.
We need to cull away all noise in our day-to-day life and see that all that does not really bring you happiness.
From my personal perspective, stress is definitely a no no when it comes to being happy. Happiness is happening in the present moment and not after acquiring something in the future. Being stressed about the future will not make you happy.
Don’t take me wrong. Having a purpose in life can drive you into growing as a human being but if you get stressed out from it, you need to stop and think less is more.
My best tips for being happy involves doing less and conserve our energy, which is a finite resource. Without energy. burnout and bad health is the effect and in the end a unhappy you.
We want to avoid that.
What we need to do is conserve our energy and do the things that do not drain this finite resource.
Here are my 3 tips to how you can instantly become more happy
1. No stress and Hakuna matata
Easier said than. We all have different things that make us stressed. You job is to identify when this happens. In order to do that you have to be very aware of the thought, emotions and bodily sensations that occurs at different situations.
My best tip is to start journaling whenever you feel stressed. Write down:
what happened
what your stress reaction (thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations) was
what you think triggered the stress reaction.
What you can do after this is to be aware of these situations and see in the mind how it affects you without judgement but with acceptance. You can repeat this until you see it is not affecting you anymore. This is part of a meditation technique that I learned from a meditation master. The technique is similar to the Sedona method explained here:
The video goes through some important points in regards to letting go. From my own perspective it is about acceptance. You accept something when you do not change what you experience and when you see it very clearly. Not changing anything means staying equanimous and non-reactive to what is experienced.
2. Having no next thing to do
I realized one thing about just living my day-to-day life:
I have the most energy mean I go by my daily life without feeling that I have to do something that someone requires me to do. Don’t take me wrong, we still have our commitments to other people and other people depends on us, that is part of being an adult.
Some requirements from others and yourself is just energy-draining. If these are optional consider removing those from your life. For me, it is very clear what energy-levels I have in the end of a workday when I work a day-job versus when I am not working 9-5. There is less thoughts and emotions that drains your energy. That is the thing.
You have to identify what thoughts and emotions affects your energy-levels and be very intent on how to resolve this.
My best tip is:
Be aware of what is draining you energy
Reflect upon if you can remove this energy-draining-factor from your life
3. Do things that energizes you
If 1 and 2 is fulfilled you can start doing things that you enjoy and help you grow. For me the best things are:
Walks in nature, passion projects and exercise
You can identify your own activities that energizes you. Make sure you enjoy it and it does not drain your energy-levels too much
For me personally, walks in nature helps me ground myself and reduce my thinking. Doing martial arts helps me stay focused and feel healthy.
For me personally, being healthy helps with feeling happy. If you are sick/ill and unhealthy, it can create worry in the mind, which drains your energy and make you more unhappy.
Finding your purpose
If you are happy but feel you want to find activity that is in alignment with you as a person, consider reading my digital book on finding your life purpose now:
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Kind regards,
Lin